“My child refuse to go to sleep.Every day I face power struggle with him to convince ,beg him to sleep?” A mother question
My answer: “You are not alone dear,most of the children refuse to sleep ,hope this will help to know that your child is normal and not a bad child ”
The mother “Why do they refuse to sleep ? Don’t they get tired at the end of the day ?”
Some of the reasons of sleeping power struggle are :
1- Children want to spent max time playing as it is the most important thing for their development even he is playing the whole day he still want to play more
2- Sometimes he really doesn’t want to sleep and it is us who want him to sleep because we have other things to do or we want to relax and stay alone without him
3- Some children refuse to sleep because they are afraid of separation from their parents during their sleep
What shall I do? How can I convince him to sleep ?How can I end of this daily power struggle ?
1- Give your child a hug few minutes before he sleeps to calm him and assure him he won’t be separated from you
2- Sometimes for older age let him learn by experience you can leave him sleep late, when he woke up in the morning to go to school and find himself tired he will understand the consequences but let him figure it out without blaming him
3- Allow him to play few minutes more and play with him ,consider his priorities so that he considers yours
In my 10 minutes tools parenting workshop I guide you to solve different power struggle you face on daily basis with your child positively
It s your choice to end this power struggle on daily basis by yelling and screaming and feeling guilty about it , promising yourself you won’t do it again which never happen or end it positively and let your child not only listen to you but cooperate with you too
